* There is something is a lot ( not all ), of us that fixates on what we adult want orgasm think is our perfection, our lust, our 'button', dream, that connects, turns us on so This is both correct, honest and foolish at the same time. We think, know, our every sensual moment would be heightened if we could be with Maybe it has, would be, can be or it is just a day dream that becomes a mildly crippling fantasy, that lets wonderful people slip right through our blindness. We concentrate on things they can't change really, instead of all the choices they did make themselves, what they became all the amazing, real, natural traits that soothe us, make us smile, entertainment us, make us think the next day of something they said it's simplicity, depth, honesty, poetry You could evolve it's it honest for you and accept that something different then you pictured can make you happy You could stew inside and being mildly miserable and resentful everyday, of her not being what you think you want so You could be a jerk and try to change her to be your doll, but is this what her soul wants ? You could be cruel and say something hurtful' that she isn't You could be a, realize that you are at a crossroad and simple, move away and on let her go, be. Maybe she is a bit soft or maybe she feels she is normal, just fine. Energy ? Maybe she is connected to her parents and relishes the time together, as someday, life take her away from that place Maybe if you care, in the light of honesty, caring, you two together can go to the gym, do sports, whatever together, dance classes, etc., and grow, make memories together and in that process, because she wants to and she is happy, she becomes more active and perhaps, looks fitter, which as a by-product, pleases you as well have you move on and someday, you have that perfect 'what you always wanted in life, your arms, your bed', person you wonder why she doesn't have all the things ( that this ago left woman has, is ), that make your heart smile so. Maybe with slow insight, time, you know yourself and it is time to move on. Maybe, it is time to grow yourself.